When people ask me what I do, I say ‘Death and Sex’. They look at me inquisitively and I explain. For part of the week I am raising awareness of death, dying and bereavement and supporting people to put end of life care plans in place and the other part of the week I am working with young people supporting them around relationships and sexual health. But isn’t that a strange combination? Not at all. Many people feel uncomfortable talking openly and honestly about both death and sex. However, the skills we need to have confident conversations about both these important issues are the same.
In 2004, I left the public sector to set up my own business. Over the years I’ve established many exciting partnerships working with a range of different organisations, including CCGs, local authorities and the voluntary sector, developing strategies, designing and delivering training and workshops and creating innovative resources.
The initial focus of my business was on sexual & reproductive health. However, in 2011, my work began to include end of life care and end of life care planning and so my passion for talking openly about death, dying and bereavement began.
For 9 years I worked as a partner at Gentle Dusk Partnership, an organisation lifting the taboo around death and bereavement and raising awareness of end of life care planning. During this time we developed Future Matters; an innovative volunteer-led service that aims to open conversations about death and that supports people to put their end of life plans in place. I also developed a range of interactive and participatory training programmes and workshops and hosted Death Cafes.
Alongside my business I also work part-time as a Contraceptive and Sexual Health Nurse at a young people’s sexual health clinic. I love supporting the young people that access the service but this experience also ensures that my feet are kept firmly on the ground so that my relationships and sexual health work always relates directly to young people’s experiences and to current practice. If you are interested in qualifications, my most relevant are:
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